All the things I’m not

Can I rant a little? I promise not to do this often, but after all it is my blog so I think I get to let loose every once in awhile.

Right now, right in this moment, I am in a very strange stage in life. I’m not in highschool, I’m not in college, I haven’t moved out, I’m not married, I’m not working a “real” job. There are a lot of things I’m “not”. And somehow those are the only things people care about. Whenever I meet someone new or even chat with an old friend or family member these are the questions I get. First they want to know what college I go to, and when I answer with “I’m actually not in school right now, I’m just working,” they naturally ask “So where do you work?” and that, my friends, is where things get complicated. See, by the time I explain that I have my own small business and am in the process of building a second business while doing some babysitting/nannying several days a week, they hear this… “I don’t have a real job and I’m not going to college because I’m lazy and I don’t really know what I’m doing with my life.”

How do I know this? Because about halfway through explaining what I do, their eyes glaze over and as soon as I am done speaking they ask “So… do you have college plans then?”

You know what? No. No I don’t. I’m sorry that what I do doesn’t fit the conventional mold. I’m sorry that I’m not following societal norm. I’m sorry that the possibility of being yet another unemployed college graduate with a pile of debt doesn’t sound as appealing as working for myself and doing what I love, which BY THE WAY I am doing quite successfully if anyone cares. 

Yeah, I actually make money. No, I don’t sit around at home all day. Believe it or not, I work. A lot. I put countless hours into my work and I’m proud of what I do. 

I didn’t pick this route because I’m lazy. I didn’t pick it because I’m intimidated by college. I picked it because I have bigger dreams than following the exact same route every other 20-something takes. I picked it because it is my God given desire to be a wife and mother and to be able to stay home and care for my family, and this is a path that will allow me to easily do that. And I am sick and tired of being told that’s wrong or that I am selling myself short.

I’m not the only girl I know who is in this place, and I think it’s time we speak up. There may be a lot of things we are not, but I’m ready to hear people talk about what we are.

**disclaimer– I would like to add that while I am ranting about the judgement I have felt from others, I am not by any means trying to cast judgement on those who ARE attending school and are pursuing higher education. There is absolutely a need for that within certain fields and I am thankful for the doctors, lawyers, teachers, etc who are following their calling which requires a college degree. I would like to see ALL the judgement cast aside, both towards those attending college and those who are not.**

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San Diego

I just returned from an amazing week in San Diego to attend my cousin’s wedding, and instead of typing up a long boring post detailing my week, I decided to run with the whole “a picture is worth a thousand words” thing and let you see all in my Instagram posts throughout the week!! Here we go!!

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Ethan is packed and ready!

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A bunch of crazy kids in the airport.

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Finally in San Diego!

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The view outside our hotel in Old Town.

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Steven had to skateboard in San Diego.

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The little boys enjoyed the skate park, too.

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The view from the skate park.

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A short walk from the skate park took us to “dog beach”

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Chacos and the ocean, two of my favorite things!!

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The view from the 29th floor of my aunt’s apartment was incredible, you can see Mexico!

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I found a horse at the San Diego zoo!

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And an elephant.

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And a Jason.

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Kathryn was a terrible co-sleeper. She looks innocent, but she steals the covers.

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Ethan loves the sand.

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Wedding time!

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Kathryn looks all grown up.

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Ethan made a friend at the wedding.

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Taking a peek at the Midway.

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Ferry ride to Coronado.

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Last day selfie with the biggest little brother and littlest little brother.

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Flying over San Diego on the long ride home.

I hope you enjoyed these pictures! If you want to keep up with the rest of my shenanigans, feel free to follow me on Instagram! My username is ckaes93.

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Herbal Body Oil

Thursday y’all, almost the weekend!! Do you have any big weekend plans? I’m heading to Celebrate Freedom, a free Christian concert in ATL where tons of my favorite Christian artists will be performing. I’m taking 3 of my brothers and 1 of my sisters, so it’ll be a fun sibling bonding day!!

I wanted to share with you a tutorial for one of my newest projects, and that is creating an herbal body oil.

For the most basic version of this project you only need 2 ingredients, and that is some sort of vegetable oil and an essential oil. But… if you want to get fancy you can use a variety of skin conditioning oils, multiple essential oils, and even herbal infused oils.

I was running low on ingredients, so the body oil I made was pretty basic, but I love it!!

I used sunflower oil for my base. Sunflower oil is full of antioxidants and vitamin A. It can help treat sun damaged skin and prevent further damage. It is a good anti aging oil. Another reason I chose sunflower oil is because it is a very light oil and soaks into skin quickly, so I don’t feel greasy after applying it.

Some other great oils to use–

Coconut Oil is probably my favorite oil to use, I just happened to be running low and didn’t have enough. It is also light and soaks into the skin quickly. It is fatty oil that nourishes and conditions the skin, locking in moisture. Coconut oil is antibacterial and has been known to clear acne, rashes, and other skin conditions. As an added bonus, it smells great!!

Olive Oil is another oil I have used. For REALLY dry skin this oil is definitely the best choice. It is deeply moisturizing and leaves skin very supple and soft. The only downside to this oil is that in my experience it takes a little longer to absorb into the skin, making it feel greasier for longer. I recommend either mixing olive oil with a lighter oil, or using it at night so it soaks in while you sleep.

Jojoba oil from what I understand is actually a liquid wax. Jojoba is fantastic for skin care!! It is one of the closest oils to the oil your skin naturally produces, making it very easy to absorb into the skin. Jojoba is very light, very moisturizing, totally non-greasy, and wonderful for acne prone skin because it won’t clog the pores. The only downside is this oil is a tad pricier.

Sweet almond oil is another very popular oil for this use, but I haven’t used it myself so I can’t give you my personal experience.

Okay, so there are some good base oils, you can use just 1 of these or create your own combination. Don’t be afraid to go to your local health food store and check out all the different skin care oils they have. Research the properties of each oil to create a blend that is perfect for YOUR skin!!

As I said, I chose sunflower oil for my body oil. I filled my container with this oil and then brought out the “active ingredient” of this recipe… the essential oils!!

This is the part where you can really personalize this recipe to your specific skin care needs. Please remember when adding essential oils that often less is more. I have really had to train myself to slowww downnn with the dropper and remember how potent these oils are!! The scent should be faint, not overwhelming.

To my oil I added lavender, rose absolute (rose blended with jojoba), ylang ylang, and orange. I chose these oils for a few reasons. Lavender and rose in particular are excellent skin care oils. Lavender is antibacterial making it a good acne busting oil, and it also soothes and moisturizes dry skin. Rose is good oil for refining and toning skin texture.

All 4 of the oils are known for being relaxing and mood boosting. I use this oil before I go to bed each night, so I thought something that would make me sleepy and happy was probably a winner!!

For around 3oz of oil I used 5-10 drops of each oil. I made the mistake of not writing down the exact number of drops… I just sniffed after each drop until it smelled right. Oops!! Next time I’ll try to keep better track.

You can use so many different essential oils for this recipe. Some of my recommendations-

Tea tree, rosemary, lemon, clary sage, frankincense, sandalwood, geranium, & lemongrass.

Cap your oil mixture and gently shake to blend the oils. 

All you need to do to use your body oil is massage onto clean skin, applying in small areas and being sure to work the oil in all the way.

I apply my oil at night after my shower or bath. That way my pores are still open from the heat and are ready to absorb the oil. I also don’t dry my skin 100% because a little dampness makes it easier to blend and smooth the oil.

Where you use the oil is up to you. Some people just use the oil as a face moisturizer or on particularly dry areas. I massage the oil over my entire body and just over the few days I have used it my skin has gotten softer and the seemingly permanent heat rash on my chest (gotta love the Georgia heat and humidity) is finally clearing up!

Let me know if you try this recipe and what essential oils you used!!

 

**Side note- I regularly visit the dollar store to check out their containers and organizing products and a few months ago I scored several little tupperware-like containers that were like 2-3oz an only $1 for a 4-pack!! I use these containers for all my personal products. I definitely recommend you check out your local dollar store because you never know what you’ll find!!**

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Happy Monday!!

Happy Monday, y’all!

I hope your week is getting off to a great start. Mine started with my 3 year old brother at my door asking for oil because his tummy hurt. Whenever he has a stomach ache I apply peppermint oil diluted in some coconut oil to his stomach and it makes him feel better. He loves asking me to make him “smell like a candy cane.” 🙂

After helping him out, I spent some time in the word. This morning was only 61 degrees, absolutely incredible for Georgia in August!! So of course I grabbed a hoodie and spent my quiet time on the front porch swing reading through 1 Corinthians and journaling. I’m reading through all of Paul’s letters for the 1387162397th time (quite literally) and I love how with each time I re-read them there are more and more truths about the gospel that I hadn’t even noticed before. It’s amazing!!

The rest of my morning has been busy with getting an order ready to ship and checking up on my Etsy shop. And drinking my coffee with almond milk (delish, you should try it!). And totally not getting distracted by Pinterest. Totally.

So, I’m going to need your help with something. I need to change the name of my blog as well as my Etsy shop. I would like the names to be the same. I’m wondering if maybe you, my lovely readers, could help!!

I need a name that encompasses all that my blog is evolving into- a mash up of natural bath & body tutorials, essential oil info, as well as personal posts about my day to day life and equestrian pursuits & devotional posts which I plan on incorporating more of.

See why I’m having trouble coming up with something?

Right now I’m thinking about something like “Carolyn Creates” or “Carolyn’s Creations” to incorporate my first name as well as what I do, and it would make a good Etsy shop name.

I have also thought about using a locational term in my title, such as something with the word “peach” since I am located in Georgia. And I just like the word peach. It’s just… peachy.

Okay. Enough of my rambling. I’m back to work, you guys think up a great name for me, k? Catch up with ya later…

 

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Sugar Scrub

Mmmm. Sugar scrubs. Nothing else makes my skin as buttery soft as a good sugar scrub.

Store bought sugar scrubs can be soooo expensive and are full of yucky chemicals that I do NOT want to be rubbing into my skin!! The natural version is very easy to make and definitely more affordable.

Sugar scrubs only require 2 ingredients!! How easy is that?? All you need to create your very own sugar scrub is some sugar and some oil.

What kind of sugar you use is up to you. I find white sugar makes a “scrubbier” scrub while brown sugar is a bit more gentle. That said, I have used white sugar on my face and didn’t find it to be too rough.

What oil you use is also optional. There are so many options!! I usually use coconut or olive oil. Sweet almond oil is also a popular choice, although I haven’t tried it myself. I have to say, coconut oil has been my favorite. I need to do a post on coconut oil soon. It’s magical stuff, I’m telling ya!! I personally prefer it in scrubs because it is a little lighter than olive oil and not so thick and greasy. That’s just me though.

Once you have chosen your sugar and oil, measure equal amounts of each and blend together. You can use the scrub as is, but I like to scent mine with essential oils.

I usually like to use citrus essential oils because they are great for improving skin tone, just be careful not to use a citrus scrub before spending time in the sun! Some citrus oils can increase photo-toxicity.

Here are some of my favorite blends-

Grapefruit-Lime-Tangerine

Lavender-Orange

Lavender-Peppermint

Peppermint-Rosemary

Ylang Ylang-Lavender-Orange

Play with the oils until you find a scent you love!!

Once you have mixed your scrub, store in a clean airtight glass jar. Using the scrub is easy! I just bring my scrub in the shower with me and I let my apple cider vinegar rinse sit on my hair for a bit while I turn the water off and massage the scrub into my skin. Work the scrub into small areas, sloughing off the dead skin. Then I rinse off with warm water to reveal silky skin that has been polished by the sugar as well as moisturized by the oil. Voila!!

Let me know what essential oil combination you tried and how your scrub worked for you!!

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